A Powerful Question To Ask Yourself
Yesterday I was watching a coaching demonstration and saw such an opportunity that I want to share with you - it’s exactly the coaching that perfectionists need.
The client on the demo seemed to be a perfectionist, though without their self-identity I hesitate to “diagnose”, but for the sake of mindset they experienced overwhelm in the moment, self-doubt about the future and it was causing procrastination and identity issues.
At one point, there was discussion about who they were (past self), who they are (present self) and who they are moving towards (future self). And so much confusion about what to do next, fear around making an important decision and lack of self-trust.
The question I wanted the coach to ask was… What would that future self tell you to do?
This is something we can ask ourselves. Whenever we are confused about where to go next. Think about who we are aspiring to be/the person who has the success we are craving and ask what they would tell us to do.
This works because it helps you access your own wisdom. We are all very wise (if we listen) and have all the answers within us. With this question you can access your wisdom, because it’s not blocked by: fear of failure, worry about not following through, judgement of yourself, etc…
What would your future self tell you to do? (or even more powerful: what would your future self tell you that you did?) This question bypasses all the potential of it not working out, because it assumes it’s done. It’s non-negotiable if success happens, because this version of you already has it.
So if you feel really passionately about something, have a feeling it’s the answer, but aren’t sure where to start, what decision to make or how to get past your fear…
Imagine your future self, ask them and see what comes up. My bet is that it’s simpler than you are telling yourself now, and that you have the wisdom within you.
Let me know, have you tried this? Does it work for you? I always love hearing your replies!
